We really enjoyed your article on costumes, especially the part about the Pimp and Ho Ball. Do you think it would be ok to go the one of these events and try to pick up another couple?
Tina & Karen
LifestyleVoice: Generally speaking, I would not recommend it as a practice. Just because people are all dressed and playing the role doesn't mean they are swingers or that they are open to the lifestyle, let alone in it. Lots of people think that just because a person is dressed a certain way or they act in a certain manner that they would be more receptive to having sex with strangers. This is simply not true. People for the most part love attention -- they enjoy dressing up in a character and showing off. Some people may even go as far as touching and kissing in public with strangers. A good example of this would be the Mardi Gras in New Orleans. Every year women flash and show their breasts and they do almost anything including giving a blow job for beads or just on a dare. But none of that means they would swing or that they are swingers. In fact, some people may even be offended that you would ask them to engage in such activity. Unless they approach you first or you know for certain that they are swingers, you should keep the lifestyle where it belongs -- in swing clubs and in online in swing groups.
I read your article about reading people at a club. What if my wife wants to dress slutty to go to a swing club but we are still newbies and don't want to play right away?
Tom
LifestyleVoice: You should dress to your own liking and in whatever makes you feel comfortable -- let her do whatever her heart desires. Sometimes just looking like a slut is part of the fantasy. Where else can she go, all dressed up anyway she wants and feel comfortable except at a swinger club? But be warned, dressing as slutty as she wants and depending on how she looks, will not go unnoticed. Perceptive swingers will see her and you as sending a message that you want to play even though you don't. You may get approached more than you would like. If this happens enough, the word may get out that you are a couple of teasers or just exhibitionists and voyeurs. You may have a problem in the future when you are really ready to play. Let her be a slut, but at your own risk.
Why is it so difficult to find a single woman to play with us on these personals sites?
"New couple"
LifestyleVoice: First of all you need to understand 3 simple facts:
1. There are far more couples looking for women than vice versa.
2. Women are not always looking as aggressively, so you need to do more than just send a cock and pussy picture and have more than a two-liner ad.
3. Looking for couples with a bi-sexual female in addition to single women could be the answer to fulfilling your fantasy.
My question to you would be -- what does your profile look like? Does it have pictures of the two of you together? Do you have a decent write, is it interesting and to the point? One thing I have found to be true from personal experience is that if you have a weak profile your contacts will also be weak. Work on your profile, make it complete, add some nice pictures of the two of you together and think out what you want to say -- be thorough and explicit, even if it's really long, write it. Single women tend to read and absorbed every word printed and will appreciate it if you lay out everything that you find attractive. If you write something simple like "Hot couple needs sexy female" you are not likely to get an answer. Many single females that attend swing clubs are mostly bi-curious and will be more open to a threesome if you approach them. Don't be discouraged, there are single women out there who are looking to play and that would love to meet and play with you -- just be a little patient, you'll be rewarded.
