We are new to the lifestyle and both of us have been pretty conservative throughout most of our lives. My husband doesn't shave his privates at all and I have only trimmed my bikini line. After reading the article about shaving your privates and then also enjoying Kate's diary piece about their experience with it, we have been enlightened! We have both started to shave down there regularly and tried many styles of "haircuts". Just that alone has launched our sex life into a new era. Thank you so much for bringing us out of the cave! Looking forward to the new issues!
Lena and Jerry
LifestyleVoice: Shaving has indeed been a hot issue in the lifestyle lately. I see a lot of message board discussions on this particular topic. It seems that shaving is not only an acceptable practice in the lifestyle, but a requirement by many participating couples. Shaving for men is something that hasn't caught up as much as shaving for women, but it seems that more and more men are getting into it and women love it!
Many couples, like yourselves, have shared their newly found excitement with each other's bodies as they started to explore different "hairstyles" of their private parts. It is exciting that now there is yet another indication that this alternative lifestyle keeps couples excited about each other sexuality.
We checked out an article in your last issue about breaking up with another couple. We found it very interesting as we are considering going our own way with a couple that we have been on and off for about a year. Neither one of us is exclusive but our relationship has been pretty on-going. We have nothing against them, but like your author said - the spark is gone and we want to move on. The problem is that they swing with many couples that we swing with and we're afraid it's going to put a damper not only on our relationship with them, but on our relationship with all other couples that we mutually know. How can we do this without making a big mess?
T&K
LifestyleVoice: It is indeed a very delicate situation. The lifestyle community is in general a pretty small community where you are likely to run into the same people over and over again. That is why it is extremely important to exercise courtesy and be as polite as possible in all situations.
In your case, we would suggest that you be honest with your friends and talk to them about what's on your mind. Explain to them that you have been meeting a lot of new couples and you would like to spend more time with them. If you do not mind sharing other couples among your circle of friends, you may suggest that you would still like to remain friends and offer to match them with other couples that you know. They should get the point and if they are indeed your friends accept and respect it.
After reading your article by the Step-by-Step Threesome writer… we forgot her name… our greatest fear was confirmed. And that is: if you're a couple with a straight female - you're not welcome in the lifestyle. We've had some soft swap experiences so far, but we're a little hesitant to proceed, as almost every couple we're trying to meet requires my wife to be bi-sexual.
Chris
LifestyleVoice: The assumption that you're basing your fear on is simply not true. Even though there are a lot of couples in the lifestyle with bi-sexual or bi-curious females, most of them do not require girl/girl interaction to have a good time.
I have a feeling that you do not represent yourselves as clear as you should to other couples. If you initiate contact with another couple and feel that both of you being straight could be an issue - you should bring it up as soon as you can, so there is no confusion. You shouldn't come across with too many couples that would turn you down for that particular reason if you meet them at clubs and parties that target full swap couples. Of course, if you go to bi-fem or female oriented clubs, you will not be able to meet too many couples that would like to limit their activities by a full-swap play.
So, make sure that online ads that you answer, clubs and parties that you attend and any other way you try to meet other couples are all about the full-swap experiences and not any other kind of flavor of the lifestyle.
