Recently, I ran across a copy of Step By Step Threesome: A Guide to the World's Favourite Fantasy. My partner and I had endured some difficulty in arranging successful threesomes, so a friend lent me a copy of her book. I just about fell out of my chair. The title itself is almost unbelievable. I've heard of step by step do-it-yourself auto repair and step by step software installation, but a step by step guide for sex? Not to mention, a threesome? Really! I couldn't wait to see how the writer would pull this off!
Suzy Bauer's book promises to guide us through the process of picking up a third party for sexy fun! Being she's an old hand at this, her advice is as reliable as any sexually liberated female swinger. She begins with a little background information on the four different types of threesomes and the popularity of each. The book also provides a history of threesomes, including the names of some notable individuals who have entertained more than one sexual partner at a time!
The book also discusses why threesomes are preferable to foursomes or moresomes. She states the three is the perfect number for sex. Of course, this is debatable, as many of us swingers know that foursomes and swapping are quite enjoyable. Granted, a threesome can be a blast, I don't think that any particular position or number of participants guarantees the optimum sexual experience. Sexual enjoyment is so relative to everything else going on at that very moment, such as the emotional state of each individual and the physical surroundings. Considering variables such as these, I don't believe a sexual performance rating can be so easily reduced to the number of partners in one bed.
However, threesomes can be great fun! And the book offers some great erotic tales!
In the discussion covering the types of threesomes, the book chooses to focus on the Aphrodite Trio, also known as a MMF (male-male-female) and the Adonis Trio, or better known as an FFM (female-female-male). In these explications, Ms. Bauer does take quite a bit of time in promoting the female bisexual experience. She claims that bisexuality is part and parcel to the Adonis Trio. This is fine for bisexual females, but what about other swingers that might not be bisexual. (Yes, they are out there!) Heterosexuality works well for the Aphrodite trio, but what happens in the Adonis trio with two straight women? The book does not address this; in fact it strongly urges bisexuality among women for the sake of the other woman's feelings.
Hmm... This, I find, extremely interesting. In Aphrodite trios, men traditionally 'share' the woman and conduct their sexual behavior in a strictly heterosexual manner. However, when it comes to the FFM trio, the participating women are expected to engage in bisexual behavior, allowing the couple to 'share' the woman. If the couple in a MMF 'share' the woman, why can't the women in an FFM 'share' the male? I'm sure it's not written in stone, but I'm curious on this insistence. Ms. Bauer claims that this will increase the chances that your 'friend' will return for more -- which, indisputably, is ideally what all of us want.
It seems the book only caters to a specific audience within the Lifestyle -- those with bisexual females. And that's Ms. Bauer's prerogative. She can't be everything for everyone all the time, especially when a writer feels so strongly about an issue. I think it's wonderful that our author is working so hard to help bring alternative sexuality, though in a particular form, to visible ground. It's up to us to speak up for our own desires.
