I was wondering if blindfolding is a type of role-playing and if so, how can it be used in swinging?
Beth & Joe
LifestyleVoice: Yes it is - you "imagine" a different role for you or your partner. Some couples groups do a "blind swap" where everyone is blindfolded and gets to play with new partners "by touch" only. There are many other games that are played at swing parties using blindfolds -- you might find them fun and exciting. One game that I know of is called, "Who's your lover?" You need at least 4 to 7 couples to participate. Basically, the women and the guys separate into two different rooms and each group draws straws to see who is going to be blindfolded and placed in a playroom with another blind folded person. The winner will be the one who guess who the other person is first. But blindfolding isn't for everyone - once again communication is the key. Find out what your partner likes sexually and how she/he may react to surprises. They may be excited by it if they trust you fully, but if they are the type of person who like being in control at all times, blindfolding may not be for them. Another game is called, "Smiles." 3 to 6 guys sit blindfolded and naked next to each other in front of a long table. The table is covered with a sheet or curtain so you can't see the lady underneath it. The lady under the table picks one of the guys to manipulate by hand or mouth and the rest of you observe to see who's smiles first. The person who smiles or lets out a moan gets disqualified until there is only one guy is left - he is the winner!
I love how my wife looks in the bustier. How can I ask a female in another couple to wear one for me?
Mark
LifestyleVoice:It is not that uncommon for couples to tell each other what they prefer as far as how others look. This is something that you can mention to the lady and most likely she would be happy to cater to your fantasy. Maybe you could bring a bustier with you when you meet the couple and ask the lady to try it on right before you all play. The other couple shouldn't have a problem wearing anything that you request them to wear and they may find it really kinky that you even asked. One other fun way of getting the other couple to play dress up is via web cam. It is an exciting way to break the ice.
I really want my wife to try swinging. I have shown her some of the swing sites and asked her if she'd be interested. She said yes, but never brought it up again. Does it mean she's no longer interested?
Seth
LifestyleVoice: Since she's your wife, you should know if she's interested or not. What does your instinct or your experiences with her tell you? Is this how she normally reacts to other requests that you have made? She may have not taken you seriously. Sit down with her, talk to her about your fantasies with her during sex --watch some swinging porn videos, etc. How open is she about sex? Make sure that she is aware that you want to try swinging to enhance both your sex lives. Don't come off as if you just want to do this to "get more action" for you. She needs to know that swinging is a lifestyle not a marriage repair event. Communication is the key to opening all the doors. Get yourself a current copy of your local swing magazine or join a swinger web site. Both of you should explore together and see if this is the life for you. Go online into chat rooms built for swinging and have some fun. When and if you decide to go to a club or a party, buy her something sexy to wear and praise her. Talk about what you are both looking for as a first encounter. Get her involved - keep her involved throughout the entire experience, before, during and after.
