I read the article about the use of Yohimbe Lotion to assist in an erection, however I am a little hesitant to try it. What are the other "regular" ways can a male stay hard in a swinging situation?
Joe
LifestyleVoice: There are a number of things you can do to try to maintain an erection. Sometimes it is something as simple as physical stimulation. Just having a female touch your penis may be enough. For a lot of guys, cunnilingus seems to work really well. Men are aroused when they feel the movement of the female and hear her moaning from their touch and the flicking of his tongue between her legs. Juices from the lady also are quite arousing to some men. If that doesn't work try caressing, kissing and holding. We all know that men are very visual, so having her layback and have her masturbate while you watch will most assuredly arouse you. And last by not least, if all else fails, you may find oral sex to be the key or the best avenue to an erection. Try doing the "69" position and see if that does the trick.
About the Closet Swingers article -- is it possible to "come out" only to certain people? We don't mind coming out to our friends, but we want to keep it away from our family?
Dave & Trish
LifestyleVoice: To come out or not to come out - that is the question. Before you got into swinging how many people or personal friends did you know that were in the lifestyle? How many people walked up to you and said, "Hi, how are you …. by the way I'm a swinger." I would think that the percentage is extremely low. In fact, I'm almost betting that you found out about the lifestyle on your own. I did, as well as most the people I know. Yes it's great to be in the lifestyle and to be around people who are so opened minded. But will our close friends be as open-minded as we think they are? And what would happen if they found out? For example, do you go to work on Monday to find all your co-workers talking about their exciting weekends and you have nothing to add. It takes a lot of will power to keep something as exciting as the swing lifestyle a secret when others have so much to talk about with their football games, movies, rock concerts, and dance clubs. But don't be ashamed of being a swinger -- take the "don't ask, don't tell" approach -- if they don't ask; don't tell, but if they do, then go for it -- why not, they must have asked for a reason. As for family -- you're 100 percent right. Keep it away from them by all means. Swinging is private, there is no need to announce your private life to your family or to the world for that matter. In reality, it's all up to you. If you feel that telling certain friends and family that you two go out every Friday or Saturday to a club or a private party where people socialize, have drinks and swap each other spouses for sexual enjoyment will make you fell better, then go for it, but just make sure you break it to them gently.
The history of the thong article was very interesting, however we were wondering why thongs have only recently came to be accepted by the main stream?
Lisa & Ted
LifestyleVoice: In the world today there is just no telling what the "in" thing will be at any given time. At one point in time it was the "mood ring," at another time it was the "Cabbage Patch Kids," you just never know. It seems that in the past decade the acceptance of sexuality has made a huge step forward -- acceptance of gays, acceptance of porno, acceptance of Pee Wee Herman, etc. Thongs were just waiting to jump in.
